You are right, of course. We as individuals have the right, (dare I say responsibility?) to gatekeep the opinions of others, real or imaginary, that we allow to influence our opinions of ourselves. While I have personally known some girls/ladies who would not give a short guy the time of day, they have been rare in my experience. Granted, I am just over six feet so would not have been rejected for being too short. That said, I was rejected for a host of other reasons: Glasses, skinny, pale, not terribly athletic, socially awkward, etc., etc., etc. ad nauseum. I spent my high school and college years in the friend zone and if I'm being honest as a 50-something happily married dad and grandpa, I learned a lot about what women want during those years in "the zone". I was rejected... a lot... until I wasn't. What does NOT get a guy the girl is carrying around a lot of bitterness and negativity and assuming that every girl one meets will default to rejection for one reason or another. That bitterness is evident and toxic and of course she's going to reject you... for that alone, maybe. If she's smart, and most of them are.
You are right, of course. We as individuals have the right, (dare I say responsibility?) to gatekeep the opinions of others, real or imaginary, that we allow to influence our opinions of ourselves. While I have personally known some girls/ladies who would not give a short guy the time of day, they have been rare in my experience. Granted, I am just over six feet so would not have been rejected for being too short. That said, I was rejected for a host of other reasons: Glasses, skinny, pale, not terribly athletic, socially awkward, etc., etc., etc. ad nauseum. I spent my high school and college years in the friend zone and if I'm being honest as a 50-something happily married dad and grandpa, I learned a lot about what women want during those years in "the zone". I was rejected... a lot... until I wasn't. What does NOT get a guy the girl is carrying around a lot of bitterness and negativity and assuming that every girl one meets will default to rejection for one reason or another. That bitterness is evident and toxic and of course she's going to reject you... for that alone, maybe. If she's smart, and most of them are.