Aahw! Are you looking to adopt a daughter or just sons? I’m sure I did the man baby thing for a while but then I finally told people I was trans and that helped me grow up a little. So I’m only interested in doing t-woman baby gigs now. 😬
Seriously though, your followers are f*cking savage.💀And these guys seriously suck at role play.
If I ever feel a bit of sympathy for these men I remind myself that these are the same people who stand alongside large crowds, parades, etc. holding up “Show me your tits” signs.
Or just “Show tits”, because who are we kidding using a complete sentence?
When I read, "Many men do not grow up, they just grow older and go looking for a woman to finish raising them," I felt sad. The question is why don't these men grow up? Perhaps it comes across that they refused to grow up at some point in their lives. But I think there is another reason, one I seldom hear anyone mention.
That is, patriarchy is a double edged sword. Sure, it's a set of cultural traditions that oppress women. That is well known. But it also oppresses boys and men, as well. Patriarchy acts to hinder maturity in boys and men. These men didn't grow up specifically because our culture invited them not to bother, before they knew any better, when they were still boys.
They were taught that they deserved certain things by right, rather than by learning how to earn them. At the same time, they were denied the very expressions of emotions afforded to girls and women, in general, such as showing fear, grief, or vulnerability. And yet, we all need to have access to these means (shaking in fear, crying openly, etc.) because that is how we emotionally heal and grow. The result? They need unconditional love and a safe place to let their inner feelings out, but don't know where to find it. Unconditional love is in very short supply as it is, for anyone, of any gender.
Boys have been taught that competition and violence are the way to get ahead in the world and settle differences. Those who rejected those things (me, for example), were teased, shamed, and shunned. And yes, shunned by the girls, too, who dated the star quarterback on the high school football team, someone full of competition and engaged in a violent sport.
The thing is, somewhere deep inside, most men still want to heal their pain and grow up but don't know how. Other men, who are also damaged in this way can't help them. So, who is left? The women who show up in the dating world.
And by then, these men are often inept and ignorant of how women feel and what is needed to make an adult connection with a woman on an equal basis.
So, you may toy with them if you wish. And in a way, I don't blame you. After all, it must be pretty depressing, as a woman, to try to find a man who has found a way to get beyond all this conditioning. As long as you don't expect what you're doing to change anything, because I doubt that it will.
That’s a lot of words to say “boys will be boys.” I see it’s everyone else’s job, yet again, to teach men how to grow up. You know whom you didn’t identify as responsible for learning how to grow up? The men. Oh, they don’t know how? How about they engage in some self-reflection, do some reading and, eee gads, get some therapy. All of these options are available. That they refuse to use them is on them.
I see your suggestions and assertions as similar to telling someone who was raped to go fix themselves, go get therapy, etc., and do nothing about the culture that fails to prevent it at its source. Many boys are not only emotionally “raped” by patriarchy, but a significant number are literally raped or sexually abused, when they are too young to know how to protect themselves.
I’m not asking you to “fix” them. All
I’m asking for is a little understanding and compassion, at least. What lies behind the problems that many men have is fear, even abject terror, that their vulnerabilities will be revealed. Why do you think the suicide rate for boys and men is three times higher when compared to girls or women? Part of the answer is that they were taught over and over that self reflection or therapy is a sign of weakness, of failure, of personal worthlessness. They are afraid they’ll be told that it’s all their fault and end up feeling hopeless and ultimately ostracized, even worse than before.
So the change must come from all of us. Not to “fix” each other, but to correct what causes the damage in the first place. Because this oppression, both physical and emotional, is leveled at little children, both boys and girls, before they can even understand what’s happening to them.
To me, it’s only by working together, to develop a better understanding of the damage that has been done to all of us, that will help change the flaws in our culture.
And those changes will benefit women as well as men. Believe me, I work hard to explain to the men I meet that if they help improve the status of women, then we will all come to benefit from the effort, together. Not everyone is receptive, of course. Nothing is perfect. But I do see changes being made.
Yo. As rape survivor, your simile is fucked. I get you’re trying to intellectualize the problem but truly. A fucking terrible comparison. Try again with something that is reasonable. Rape isn’t it. Not to mention men are the problem with both rape and the entirety of the systems you describe harming men.
I will add that I acknowledge society, including women perpetuate the systems of patriarchy. I don’t take issue with your premise as a whole. Your comparison should be updated.
Kim, I apologize. I wanted to be emphatic but I ended up adding to your pain and likely the pain of others as well. I’m sorry.
My heart hurts to think of what different people have had to endure in this life, often because we have gotten enmired in a culture of exploitation, blame, fear, and shame.
My only hope is that we get better at seeing where we, as a society, have supported harmful behavior and work to change that. And that we create more safe spaces where anyone who has been hurt has an opportunity to be heard and supported through their grieving and healing process.
As someone afraid of becoming one of those men, if I’m not one of them already, I find this post horrifying. I wish I could at least thank you for scaring me straight, but the moral seems to be “Leave women alone for good. Don’t dream of ever getting close to one. Don’t talk to them. Stay away from them. Let them not know you exist; otherwise, you’re abusing them and deserve the absolute worst”. This isn’t exactly a new message, but I’m not ready to accept it yet.
Ahem. My baby registry. 🥺 It takes a village https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2Z9FBBNP5JCRS?ref_=wl_share
As always this was fun. Your two bouncing baby boys look like they could be a handful...
I need you to adopt more
If you insist!
I do
Brooke's heart knows no bounds or limit, obviously.
The next gambit should be sending these screen shots to their mothers who are, no doubt, also on Facebook. Would love to see those reactions. 😂
Tbh these men’s mothers might be dead or unable to be on Facebook!
Possibly. But it sure would be fun if they were!
Laughing so hard I’m waking up my dogs
Tell your dogs I say hi
So, your dogs only get walks when you're hyperventilating from laughter?
The commenters too 🤣
I love these so much
These are great enough to make this hyaena howl again.
Aahw! Are you looking to adopt a daughter or just sons? I’m sure I did the man baby thing for a while but then I finally told people I was trans and that helped me grow up a little. So I’m only interested in doing t-woman baby gigs now. 😬
Seriously though, your followers are f*cking savage.💀And these guys seriously suck at role play.
If I ever feel a bit of sympathy for these men I remind myself that these are the same people who stand alongside large crowds, parades, etc. holding up “Show me your tits” signs.
Or just “Show tits”, because who are we kidding using a complete sentence?
DAMNIT! I always thought it was "Show us your tits."
🤣🤣 it’s whatever you want it to be, I suppose 😝
These mean are so gross
When I read, "Many men do not grow up, they just grow older and go looking for a woman to finish raising them," I felt sad. The question is why don't these men grow up? Perhaps it comes across that they refused to grow up at some point in their lives. But I think there is another reason, one I seldom hear anyone mention.
That is, patriarchy is a double edged sword. Sure, it's a set of cultural traditions that oppress women. That is well known. But it also oppresses boys and men, as well. Patriarchy acts to hinder maturity in boys and men. These men didn't grow up specifically because our culture invited them not to bother, before they knew any better, when they were still boys.
They were taught that they deserved certain things by right, rather than by learning how to earn them. At the same time, they were denied the very expressions of emotions afforded to girls and women, in general, such as showing fear, grief, or vulnerability. And yet, we all need to have access to these means (shaking in fear, crying openly, etc.) because that is how we emotionally heal and grow. The result? They need unconditional love and a safe place to let their inner feelings out, but don't know where to find it. Unconditional love is in very short supply as it is, for anyone, of any gender.
Boys have been taught that competition and violence are the way to get ahead in the world and settle differences. Those who rejected those things (me, for example), were teased, shamed, and shunned. And yes, shunned by the girls, too, who dated the star quarterback on the high school football team, someone full of competition and engaged in a violent sport.
The thing is, somewhere deep inside, most men still want to heal their pain and grow up but don't know how. Other men, who are also damaged in this way can't help them. So, who is left? The women who show up in the dating world.
And by then, these men are often inept and ignorant of how women feel and what is needed to make an adult connection with a woman on an equal basis.
So, you may toy with them if you wish. And in a way, I don't blame you. After all, it must be pretty depressing, as a woman, to try to find a man who has found a way to get beyond all this conditioning. As long as you don't expect what you're doing to change anything, because I doubt that it will.
I've posted two essays on this: https://glennckoenig.substack.com/p/slay-patriarchy-not-people?r=b2w0l ... and ...https://glennckoenig.substack.com/p/plight-of-men-in-three-dimensions?r=b2w0l ...in case you or anyone following you may be interested in uderstanding this better.
That’s a lot of words to say “boys will be boys.” I see it’s everyone else’s job, yet again, to teach men how to grow up. You know whom you didn’t identify as responsible for learning how to grow up? The men. Oh, they don’t know how? How about they engage in some self-reflection, do some reading and, eee gads, get some therapy. All of these options are available. That they refuse to use them is on them.
I see your suggestions and assertions as similar to telling someone who was raped to go fix themselves, go get therapy, etc., and do nothing about the culture that fails to prevent it at its source. Many boys are not only emotionally “raped” by patriarchy, but a significant number are literally raped or sexually abused, when they are too young to know how to protect themselves.
I’m not asking you to “fix” them. All
I’m asking for is a little understanding and compassion, at least. What lies behind the problems that many men have is fear, even abject terror, that their vulnerabilities will be revealed. Why do you think the suicide rate for boys and men is three times higher when compared to girls or women? Part of the answer is that they were taught over and over that self reflection or therapy is a sign of weakness, of failure, of personal worthlessness. They are afraid they’ll be told that it’s all their fault and end up feeling hopeless and ultimately ostracized, even worse than before.
So the change must come from all of us. Not to “fix” each other, but to correct what causes the damage in the first place. Because this oppression, both physical and emotional, is leveled at little children, both boys and girls, before they can even understand what’s happening to them.
To me, it’s only by working together, to develop a better understanding of the damage that has been done to all of us, that will help change the flaws in our culture.
And those changes will benefit women as well as men. Believe me, I work hard to explain to the men I meet that if they help improve the status of women, then we will all come to benefit from the effort, together. Not everyone is receptive, of course. Nothing is perfect. But I do see changes being made.
Yo. As rape survivor, your simile is fucked. I get you’re trying to intellectualize the problem but truly. A fucking terrible comparison. Try again with something that is reasonable. Rape isn’t it. Not to mention men are the problem with both rape and the entirety of the systems you describe harming men.
I will add that I acknowledge society, including women perpetuate the systems of patriarchy. I don’t take issue with your premise as a whole. Your comparison should be updated.
Kim, I apologize. I wanted to be emphatic but I ended up adding to your pain and likely the pain of others as well. I’m sorry.
My heart hurts to think of what different people have had to endure in this life, often because we have gotten enmired in a culture of exploitation, blame, fear, and shame.
My only hope is that we get better at seeing where we, as a society, have supported harmful behavior and work to change that. And that we create more safe spaces where anyone who has been hurt has an opportunity to be heard and supported through their grieving and healing process.
All good. Thanks for approaching my response with empathy. Take care!
Wow...guys can be soo creepy, but I dig how you flipped the script...hilarious!
Bahahahahaha all your friends are in on it!?!?
“Sick son of a me” 😂🤣💀
Don’t let her fool you, Brooke enjoys the attention from these Men.
As someone afraid of becoming one of those men, if I’m not one of them already, I find this post horrifying. I wish I could at least thank you for scaring me straight, but the moral seems to be “Leave women alone for good. Don’t dream of ever getting close to one. Don’t talk to them. Stay away from them. Let them not know you exist; otherwise, you’re abusing them and deserve the absolute worst”. This isn’t exactly a new message, but I’m not ready to accept it yet.